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Youth,Society,Nation

by Manmohan Dhar

Children Parent Relationship….. Give It A Thought.

By Manmohan Dhar

World is changing at a very fast speed. So is our country, our neighborhood, our society and our culture.

And it is very hard to put brakes on the changing life style, food habits, social instincts, alarmingly damaging approach to life, of the present day youth. Though we may not generalize the situation but yes a large section of the youth is definitely not on the right path in their pursuit.

In fact, to be very frank, damage, I am afraid, has been done, and all the blame for that can not be put on the youth only.

Society, work culture, social media and the parents as well, are to be blamed for the remotely repairable damage that has been caused. Why I say “remotely repairable”, has a strong reason behind that, which is that we should never, under any circumstances, say that this damage can’t be fixed.

I feel,  if we all act towards the right direction, with a right approach and with a strong and firm resolve, we will succeed in repairing the damage, before it is too late.

Children, in the present educational scenario, live with their parents till they qualify their higher secondary academics.

After that they either qualify for professional studies or for any other stream of academics, for which they have to leave the home and live at a separate place with altogether a separate environment.

This is where the problem starts cropping up.

But those twelve years of academic study can play a vital role in the psyche of a particular child, if the parents put in their best in shaping and polishing the mind set of their children. Because these are basically the most crucial years of a child where he or she can be motivated and inspired to follow what is right for him or her.

When the parents don’t falter their duties, when they understand the virtues and shortcomings of their children, when they make use of  time, the most, in teaching their children, the essence of this world and the purpose to live in it, then there is no reason why we can not conquer the evil.

There are so many aspects of life which need one on one with respect to the children and their parents, and lot many need to be addressed with utmost caution and belongingness because when it comes to a bright and acceptable future of our children, we as parents can never efford to be careless or for that matter ignorant about the growth and development of our children.

As parents we have to take time out, in persuading our children to understand the meaning of being noble, gentle, generous, painstaking, helpful and above all obedient, so that when our children are exposed to external stumili, they are able to resist and in the bargain impart less damage to their growing persona.

Children too,  are human being, just like their parents. They can come across a variety of people with altogether a different mental  setup and a different pattern of reacting abilities to deal with outside world. So with everything just averse to what they thought theie environment to be, they ought to manage, with all the I.Q  at their command, to come up to the expectations of their parents. This is what most of the parents keep…… expectations!

Well to expect good is not bad, but to expect good without thinking that this expecting factor, may in the long run may create a sense of fear in his mind, and instead of trying to do good or be good, he may lose the grip and get swayed into something very bad.

So expectations need to be minimized. We may exercise our right to be the parents who always want to protect their children, expecting them to be good, but expectations need to be minimal.

When  something good comes your way unexpectedly, it gives a feeling of joy, contentment and tremendous satisfaction.

Children too, need time to settle in a particular environment.

And I can assure you, if your home work has been up to the mark, they won’t disappoint you.

So for all those parents who are never ready to take the brunt of responsibility on their shoulders, I  would suggest they take time out, from their busy schedule and devote it towards their children during their all important academics, when they are all out to listen to whatever you tell them in framing their future.

Let us all take the call well on time and nip the evil in the bud, before it is too late.

Because, it is really, never, too late.

What is needed is the “Action, at a right time, at a right place and of course with the right person”.

Children and parents, both can play a very vital and pivital role in nation building. All that is needed is the sincere effort and firm resolve to be instrumental in transforming the society.

Ours is a very rich culture and to preserve the essence of it’s richness, we shall have to be the whistleblowers. If we see or come to know about something  concerning our children or for that matter someone else’s children, which in one way or the other is not good for them, we should raise our voice. Because we owe it to the human race and humanity.

by Manmohan Dhar

MOTHER’S DAY 2015

I wish all the women who enjoy the motherhood and also those who aspire to be mother, a very happy and affectionate mother’s day.

Being a mother is a great experience for any woman. Especially those  whose endless affection is being reciprocated with equal amount of love and respect.

There are mothers who despite giving birth to their young ones,  are still deprived of the children’s  love. Just because their children, due to one reason or the other, leave their homes and forget their parents.

Such unfortunate mothers need to be given a much needed sympathetic touch by the people who happen to be very close to them. First and foremost is the husband, who can act as the immediate support in the times of need.

There are children also, who despite  having parents, are abandoned and refused Mother’s love and affection. There are many a reason, why children are abandoned. Let us not discuss the details. But, yes this is really not a very healthy state of affairs. Such children also need a compassionate attention of the society.

Celebrated every second sunday of May, Mother’s day is dedicated to all the mothers the world over who live for their children and also those who sacrifice for their children.

I salute the true motherhood.

Happy Mother’s Day.

by Manmohan Dhar

Cricketers Falling Prey To “Life Style Virus”

Viruses are of so many kinds. Some are fatal, some make you sick, some pose an immediate threat to your life and some even change your life. Our cricketers have fallen prey to the last kind of the virus.

They have succumbed to the vicious and dreadful infection of the virus which changes the total life style and the pattern of activities of a person.

And there are sub types of this kind of the virus. Viz. Political virus, bollywood virus, fixing virus, Ad. market virus, arrogance virus etc. etc. All these viruses have laid very dangerous impact on the sport in general and the player in particular.

India might be the most richest cricket board of the world and the most powerful as well, keeping in view India’s position at the ICC. But if we try to analyse the effect of these positions on the overall body language of the cricketers, we will come to the conclusion  that it has adversely affected the players and left them alarmingly arrogant.

Needless to elaborate on the kinds of viruses which have invaded the playing potentialities of the cricketers.  Records tell us the whole story.

How pathetic !

But this is the truth about Indian cricket, and some elite cricketers, who unfortunately are the so called back bone of Indian cricket, who have ruined the cricketing image of our country, should be shown the door, before they make any further damage to the game.

Nip the evil in the bud.

Well, I feel it is not going to be fruitful for both, struggling and promising cricketers of India, if we name these ailing stalwarts of the game.

The only thing I would like to suggest to the budding cricketers of India is that they should not follow the precedence which their erring icons have set for them.

Country comes first.Individuality comes next. It is never the reverse of it. If you are a cricketer,then you ought to worship the game selflessly.

Glitter of glamour is the enemy of the game.

Real cricket connotes toil,sweat,hard work, practice, dedication, sincerity, obedience, team work and simple living. Because it the simple living which holds key to dedication, and dedication happens to be the name of the game.

Cricketing life should be treated on the pattern of “Gurukul”. Where every  activity which does not go in line with the basic fundamentals of the Gurukul, is forbidden.

Glamour in cricket, has been eroding the very essence of the game. And it is not that we don’t know it. But why we are turning a blind eye and a deaf ear to this grave state of affiars, remains to be a mystery.

In a bid to solve this mystery, Cricket board  will have to put its foot down and start being more and more strict towards the arrogant few. And give the game, its original form and the players, their original persona and identity.

BCCI very urgently needs to get its act together, before it is too late.

by Manmohan Dhar

Have Social Values Got Erased From The Face Of Society

Sometimes people give a very pessimistic, cynical and demoralizing view about social values becoming ‘history’.

Sometimes very disheartening statements against our youth really make us very sad. They blame the youth for being totally disrespectful towards their customs and traditions.

But I think, it is not the youth, it is the huge communication gap that is boundlessly increasing between the generations, which is responsible for the damage, if any.

In fact the youth of present times is very sincere, honest, open, candid, truthful and straight forward. You discuss anything with them, which is good, positive, practical,pragmatic,effective, productive and with some strong social logic attached to it, they are there to accept it with pride. In fact they, not only accept it, but assure as well, that the same is passed on to the future generations as well.

So, instead of heeding the people who are hell bent on blaming our youth, we should try to introspect and find the ways to safeguard  our respective social values.

Well, the damage, if any, is not irreparable, at all.

I think social values are the most influencing aspect of a civilized society. A society is a multi faceted entity comprising of diverse nature of embodiment of traditional and cultural ethos.

Communication skills, is what holds the key to succeed. So let us talk. Listen and be listened. be able to explain, explore and present before the youth,the reason to accept something,which in your view needs to be carried forward.

I don’t think social values are completely erased from the face of the society.

With the advent of social media, and the likes thereof, in the contemporary world, the possibility of strengthening the feeble cords of  human values has in fact enhanced. But, this via media needs to be used in a right perspective.

There is always a hope. And our hope lies, not only in preaching and propagating, it lies in the broad mindedness of our youth, who are ready to accept anything which sounds logical to them. Hope also lies in the positive appoach of our youth. So, we can rest assured.

Further, it would be wrong to see the diversity in different social and cultural formats on the same wavelength. Because the concept of ‘social values’ differs from one society to the other. But notwithstanding this fact, every society is expected to stick, resolutely, if not  rigidly, to the basics, and not tend towards something that may amount to a paradigm shift in the set pattern of belief in a particular community.

We should not, rather can not, ridicule the old traditions just on the ground that these traditions and customs are obsolete, orthodox, conservative or superstitious. There are some very prominent positives in these traditions and customs, which can be explored in making the newer generation, a widely accepted ‘role model’ for the future generations.

Be humble in accepting the newer trends. Of course the good ones.

we need to be liberal in extending a free hand to the youth in different aspects of life, barring a few where the absolute control of the older generation is needed the most.

We also need to broaden our understanding of other cultures. In fact, try to pick some appealing aspects of other cultures across the world, to fit in that of our own.

And,last but not the least, let me assert, “The child is father of the man”. (This expression was used by William Wordsworth in his famous poem,’The Rainbow’) This  means that all our positive and negative virtues are established when we are young.So it is necessary to groom children to adopt healthy attitudes and positive virtues so that they grow up to be balanced individuals, with an everlasting faith in social values.

When we do this, we will triumph in upholding the core principles of our “social values “.

by Manmohan Dhar

Think tank, But How ? Crime Against Women, A Sin

Mr. Arun Jaitley, a political stalwart,proudly enjoying the privilege of being called the “Think Tank” of his party, can stoop so low and speak so irresponsibly and unconscionably, really stunned me.

I wonder, How can he be the “Think Tank”. He has not thought before he spoke.

Even in normal circumstances one thinks twice before making a statement.

But this political giant never thought it to be so important.

May be he did’nt do it intentionally,but whatever he said was something which needs to be condemned very strongly.

If you are making a statement in public or in a forum,you ought to do some home work and keep your cool while deliberating. You have also to be careful and unhurried in your speech.
“Think before you speak” , It looks, does’nt apply to him. Perhaps he thinks that he holds a position where he is free to utter anything he thinks is in the larger interest of his country and the audience will accept it, even if it hurts the sentiments of the people and even puts the image of the country in jeopardy.

Any unfortunate incident of crime against women, needs to be strongly condemned and its mention should not be made in public, so cheaply.

This is really painful.

We ought to raise our voice against crime,but should not use it for ulterior motives, even if it relates to any sort of development, for that matter.

It should not be highlighted while discussing  issues confronting the country, even if  it happens to have some kind of an impact, directly or indirectly, on the same.

Country comes ‘First’, But respect for women is  “Supreme”

Crime against women is a sensitive issue and needs to be dealt with utmost responsibility and a sense of belongingness and humane emotions accompanied by compassion, benevolence and humanistic values.

So, Mr. Jaitley when you said and I quote a part thereof, “A ‘small’ incident of rape….” unquote. You have not said it with all  your thinking abilities at your command.

This is very very hurting.

Well, Mr. Jaitley you owe an unconditional apology, not only to the person about whom you spoke, not only to her parents and well wishers, but to the Nation as a whole.

And, I am sure  a person of your stature will not waste a moment in doing so.

Please uphold the values of Humanity.

JAI BHARAT

 

by Manmohan Dhar

Youth Can

I think much has been lost and there is hardly any room for staking anything else.

High time for the YOUTH to consolidate and come forward with a sincere effort to resolve everything and pave the way for a prosperous kashmeeri community.

Past is the guide so let us learn from this,present is the action so let us act and future is the achievement so let us achieve the lost dignity and honour and show the world that “YOUTH CAN”.